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Etiquette expert Lizzie Post, great-great-granddaughter of Emily Post, knows a thing or two about the rules of the road—and the descendant of the famous decorum diva is a runner too!
Q: My friend always wants to get brunch after our runs, and the cost is adding up. I don’t want to be the only one in the group that declines, but how do I tell her that it’s just outside of my budget?
I think you have a couple of options here. One thing you could do is suggest that runners in the group alternate doing brunch at your houses. This could help you at least control the cost. Pancakes, even for a crowd, are inexpensive and tasty.
However, if it feels like too much for you to host brunch on your group rotation, then I would be straight up with her. “Kiera, I love getting to decompress after our runs, but brunch just isn’t in my budget. Would you want to do longer cool-down walks, so that we can chat and hang out more afterward, or maybe just get coffee?” Any good friend will understand.
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