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Etiquette expert Lizzie Post, great-great-granddaughter of Emily Post, knows a thing or two about the rules of the road—and the descendant of the famous decorum diva is a runner too!
Q: My friends want to share our Fitbit stats. I’m nervous about the competition and don’t really want to get into that with them, but the peer pressure! Should I try it?
A: This is one of the most frustrating things about statistics for me. For example, I had a friend who was 10 pounds lighter than I was, and it used to annoy her that we’d hit the treadmills together and the stats would always show I had burned more calories than she had. I kept trying to explain to her that it didn’t matter because we were two different bodies. I burn more calories because there is more of me to move. I felt badly that she was never satisfied with our sessions because of this difference. Of course, some people are just into the information in order to gather data that will help them understand more about weight loss and exercise.
If you know your friends are competitive like mine was, it might be best to say that you want to keep your results to yourself, but you feel really lucky to be supporting each other in your fitness goals.
If they pressure you, say, “I hope you can respect my comfort level, because I’m really excited to be doing this Fitbit thing.” Hopefully they will hear you and understand.
Have a question for Lizzie? Email firstname.lastname@example.org or tweet @womensrunning with the hashtag #ProperForm.