Etiquette expert Lizzie Post, great-great-granddaughter of Emily Post, knows a thing or two about the rules of the road—and the descendant of the famous decorum diva is a runner too!
Q: Do you think it’s rude not to share chews or whatever I have to eat on a run with others in my group, especially when they don’t have anything? Or is it annoying to ask for fuel from others?
For most running groups (each does have its own set of rules and norms), you bring what you need and you’re not expected to share. If I were with someone having an off-day and struggling, I would probably offer anything I could. But if you take out a chew on a regular run and the guy next to you asks for one, I think it’s perfectly acceptable to agree to or decline his request.
If you need to decline, simply say, “Sorry, I don’t have enough to share today.” It’s not rude to refuse—it just depends on your nature and how much you have to share (if any). As to whether it’s rude to ask for fuel yourself, again I defer to the group’s norms. If it’s common practice to ask and to offer, great, do it. But if asking for an extra is rare, I suggest waiting for the person who has it to offer.
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