Tough Love on the Way to the Olympic Marathon Trials

Esther Atkins is competing at the 2020 event as an athlete and a coach—to her husband.

So far, 285 American women have qualified for the 2020 Olympic Marathon Trials. Among them is one competitor who will have more on her mind than her own performance—Esther Atkins is coaching her husband, Cole, to the prestigious starting line, too.

Although it’s not unheard of for distance-running couples to contend at the trials at the same time, a woman calling the shots for her husband’s training is a unique arrangement in a sport that sees few female coaches at the top.

Atkins, 32, qualified for the race in December, by finishing the California International Marathon in 2:36. Her husband, Cole, 33, earned his spot at the Houston Marathon, finishing in 2:18.

The trials are scheduled for February 29 in Atlanta, where the men and women will compete in separate races, though will likely be running at the same time. Traditionally, the top three men and women are named to the U.S. Olympic team, though the qualification system released this week by the International Association of Athletics Associations may alter the selection process.

Nonetheless, athletes like the Atkins train hard for the most competitive 26.2 miles there is for American runners. Juggling personal performance needs plus supporting those of her husband-athlete has worked out, so far.

“Our last few buildups have been at different times, so that’s worked well for us,” Esther says. “It was a bit of a lucky draw but it allowed me to prioritize who was getting more attention.”

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This man. This man is loyal. This man is determined. This man is loving. This man is kind. This man is clear with his boundaries and intentions. This man set out to finish what he started. This man achieved something that seemed unattainable 2 years ago. This man is just ran 2:18:39 in the marathon after 2 years of injury and 2 more years of clawing his way back. One run at a time. He throws himself fully into everything he does. Becoming the best coach and coworker he can be. Preparing to be present for his teenage soccer players every night on the fields. Setting boundaries and making sacrifices. Fitting in runs and following workouts to the T. Doing all the extra stuff to keep him from teetering off the edge of staying injury-free. And spending the rest of his time savoring every moment with me. Cole has taught me a lot about what it takes to come back from injury. I’ve always thought that a serious injury would simply be the end. Cole has shown me it is not. Over and over. When I agreed to coach him a little over a year ago, we had a few agreements: • it would be collaborative • it would accommodate his work schedule • he would listen to me (especially when I told him to do less) • if the coach-athlete relationship became detrimental to our marriage I would immediately cease coaching him • WHEN he qualified for the Olympic Trials under my guidance, I would get to call myself his coach publicly 😘 Despite being my husband, Cole has been one of the easiest people to coach. (*It would NEVER have worked the other way around.*) He is very talented, super hard-working, and extremely coachable. The perfect athlete triumvirate!! I feel very lucky to have fallen into the opportunity to guide an athlete of his caliber to achieving such a meaningful goal. But even more than his qualifying time, I am so proud of his mindset. I’ve known Cole for 9 years and I have never seen him as proud of any performance (except maybe marrying me) as he was today of this race. He absolutely deserved every ounce of that pride and joy, and I’m so glad he could finally experience it. I love you Cole, and I couldn’t be happier for you. #proudwife #proudcoach

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With the trials on the horizon, however, the Greenville, South Carolina–based couple must find a different approach. They see it as an opportunity to hold each other accountable to early bedtimes, nutrition, ancillary care, and all the details on top of high mileage and intense workouts that are necessary to prepare.

“Neither of us view this as a year-round, sustainable way to live, because it would be exhausting,” Atkins says. “So it’s good to have a condensed period of time where we’re both all in.”

During the buildup to Atlanta, Atkins sees opportunities where she can serve as a coach while focusing as an athlete, as well as customize her training schedule to fill both roles. They can head to the track together, for example, and run different workouts and plan their long runs for different days, so Atkins can tag along next to Cole on the bike to watch his progress.

But how did this arrangement originally take shape? Atkins took on Cole’s coaching duties in the fall of 2017, when Cole was returning from a long injury layoff—though he wasn’t completely sold on the arrangement in the beginning.

“Esther knew my history and how I respond to training, so her approach was lots of aerobic, moderate and controlled running,” Cole says. “I was dubious at first, but decided to trust her.”

Now he says puts complete faith in his wife as a coach—and belief in the system is critical.

“From my end, there are no cons to this arrangement,” Cole says. “An athlete must trust in the coach and follow the overall training plan. When I decided Esther would coach me, I give her control and trust, and it’s been my best decision ever.”

Atkins agrees, calling her husband one of her most coachable athletes.

“It takes some reassurance that he’s doing enough and consistent positive feedback from workouts,” she says. “Sometimes I have to preface statements by saying ‘this is your coach talking,’ but I’m impressed by how smoothly things have gone.”

The Coach is Also Coached

Atkins is guided in her own training by Steve Magness, who coaches at the University of Houston and says her mental game is one of her biggest assets.

“We’ve been working together for three years and in that time, I’ve watched her develop her psychological side,” he says. “She has the ability to reframe and readjust to get the most out of every race she enters.”

Redefining what counts as success in her running has helped Atkins ride the inevitable highs and lows that come with pursuing the sport at the highest levels. She refuses now to subscribe to the mentality that she’s only as good as her last race’s result.

“I’ve learned to focus on my achievements and that’s been a game changer,” she says.

To that end, Magness has been able to tap into Atkins’s mental game and work it to her advantage. For example, he asked her to pace another athlete to temper her expectations in a race when her fitness wasn’t at its peak. The result: Atkins ran better than expected, because she wasn’t focused so much on her own performance.

Much like her coach/athlete relationship with Cole, Atkins has developed the necessary trust with Magness to excel.

“Like any good relationship, we have open communications and a partnership,” Magness says. “She’s empowered to make decisions and move things around on her schedule as needed.”

That flexibility will likely prove useful as Atkins plays her dual role heading into Atlanta. No matter how things shake out, she admits the arrangement will bring an extra level of excitement to the day.

“I can’t wait to see how we place,” she says. “Since I’m Cole’s coach, I win either way.”