Should I Go On A Run–As A First Date?

Etiquette expert Lizzie Post as tips on how to handle potentially awkward situations–including first dates that involve running.

Etiquette expert and runner Lizzie Post knows a thing or two about the rules of the road. The great-great granddaughter of etiquette’s original reigning queen, Emily Post, has tips on how to handle situations that have the potential to become awkward–including first running dates.

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I’m thinking of going for a run on a first date. What’s your take on whether that’s a good idea?

It’s a fun idea! I went on a first-date run and it was great. Here are some things that I considered:

  • Safety first. If this is a date with someone you only just met, set up checkpoints with a friend—usually just a text or call to or from you by a certain time—and give your friend any possible info, such as your date’s name, phone number and description, as well as the route you’re running.
  • Running style. I do a run/walk combo. My date had run marathons. So I asked that we stick to what works for me. No matter which of you can endure a longer, faster run, go with the pacing of the person who is slower. No need to take someone out of their comfort zone on date one.
  • Choose a route ahead of time. I made sure I knew where we’d be and that I was comfortable with the area both for safety and for my enjoyment of the run.
  • But what about the sweat? We knew we’d be running in the August heat, so I didn’t worry about sweating—that’s just part of this date. But I did bring a change of clothes and shower stuff, so that I was at least prepared if somehow the option arose.

Eventually our run turned into a very long walk, which was wonderful. It was such a nice atmosphere to get to know my date. It didn’t result in a relationship, or even a second date, but it’s still one of my favorite firsts.


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