Not every run can be happy. Here's how to tread lightly around bad news.


Etiquette expert Lizzie Post, great-great-granddaughter of Emily Post, knows a thing or two about the rules of the road—and the descendant of the famous decorum diva is a runner too! 

I just heard someone in my run club has breast cancer. Should I say something to her or is it better not to bring it up?

In most cases, it’s best to wait a bit for her to let you know, and then you can express your concern or sympathy. If she still hasn’t mentioned it to you personally, but it’s fairly common knowledge in your group, it’s okay to say something. “Kara, I heard about your diagnosis. I am so sorry.” It can also help to check in with the person you heard it from, and ask if your friend has asked for privacy or if she seems okay talking about it.

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